I don’t need to be your everyday but I’d like to be your moments

In the morning with your coffee and biscotti
Around 2 when the tired day keeps dragging on
When your world starts discriminating

Later in the afternoon, when the sun is ticking your face
When you go on a spring walk
Whenever you need to talk at 3 am, or anytime

When you’re stumbling and you’ve lost your keys
On Saturdays when it’s raining
Or even when you feel like you want some homemade baking

At night when the evening is dark
When all you need is pillow talk
and candy kisses and other things

That’s all I need, to be part of those moments

What I want is what all want, and even those that deny that they want it, want it.

I want a love with no limits, an endless love filled with passion and depth. I want a love that comes with being best friends, teachers and students, and partners in everything.

To sweep me up in every moment, to take me up and under. When the screams come to kiss louder and when the tears fall to dance faster. Together, and always.

I want a love who will understand me, who wont change me but better me. I want a love who will want to be near me, grow with me, explore with me, and never want to lose me.

Fight, look, and talk for only me because of desire, lust, and simply because of want.

I want a love where I would do all these things for them.

One day, too soon, it will happen and it won’t matter how you find out, or when you find out, because by the time you are finding out, it will be too late.

Your baby, your boo, the person you were just so head over heels with and swore up and down was going to come back to you, will be with someone else.

Maybe a friend will tell you, maybe you will see a picture on Facebook, or maybe your ex is going to be the one to tell you, but when you find out you are going to do some digging, crying, and self-doubting.

It’s going to hurt and you may not understand this type of pain. It may come on waves of anger and sadness, but what it is, is betrayal. Even though you and this other person have broken up and gone separate ways, some part of you, no matter how tiny, thought there was a chance you’d get back together and seeing them laughing with someone else or hearing how happy they are with someone else is a reality slap.

You will say at least once to your friends “I’m better looking then him/her, right?”

And being friends they will say yes, even if you are not.

You are going to wonder if this new someone is better then you, what they have that you don’t, and you are going to wonder if your ex still cares about you.

It won’t matter how many people tell you bad gossip about your ex’s new toy and it won’t matter how many rebounds you have or dates you go on, it’s going to suck when you find out.

Don’t be ashamed of what you feel during this time, because you rightfully should feel horrible. This person that you shared so much of your life with, who you thought about bonding with for life, and who enjoyed life with you for a while is now doing all of those things with someone else, and that is hard to swallow.

Call it jealousy, call it envy, call it whatever you want, but the reason that it sucks is because it is the last piece of hope you are holding on to for that person and you to work it out, is being shattered.

Understand that although you will feel this way over someone else, chances are, you are going to make someone else feel this way and accept that it is just a part of life and you have every right to feel like crap when the person you had been with moves on and lets go of you.

I like to swing off the branches in the wind and chatter about frivolous things, so if you wana get to know me you better know what to bring.

Seduce me with your licks of tongue, the words you spent time puzzling together. Bring me full bodied wine to sip on while I listen and my hair tickles your face like feathers.

Yes, yes, you need to impress if you want to get undressed.
You need to move me, improve me if you want to swim in this sea
cuz’ I’m a catch and I know it so bring your best bait if you wana have a chance to taste me on your plate.

I’m not saying you have to do some wine and dining but you gotta’ prove yourself if you want me to be your silver lining. Don’t worry I’ll do the same, after all I’m the one who gave this game its name.

 I already know how to tickle your funny bone, the rhymes to spin to make you feel blown. Darling I’m gunna give you a sickness that you can’t get enough of, yea baby, I’m going to make you feverishly in love.

Yes, yes, I will come and impress and not just with how I dress.
I can move you, improve you, cuz’ I only gossip what’s true.
You’re a catch, but you don’t know it, but I’m gunna make you commit cuz I know we’re the perfect fit.

Remember when you were a teenager and it seemed like everyone had a boyfriend, everyone except you? You probably found yourself at home wondering why YOU didn’t have a boyfriend and what was wrong with you.

When you go to college some people have a boyfriend, some people don’t, some people have a lot of boyfriends and some girls are engaged to their high school sweeties. It’s easy to fit in there, you can find groups of girls that relate to your dating situation.

Well, then you find yourself at 20something years old and it seems like EVERY GIRL YOU KNOW is either moving in with her boyfriend, getting engaged or is married. Now you really look at yourself at home and think, something is wrong with me.

You might find yourself questioning why you aren’t in a relationship, you will pity yourself, you might get depressed, and occasionally fend for any mans attention. If that hasn’t happened to you yet, try to be strong and remember this..

When you are in your 30’s almost all of your friends that got married in their early 20’s are going to start having affairs or they will have so many marriage problems that it’s destroying their lives. Eventually they will all start getting divorced, they will be on the prowl and will only find younger men who want their money and experience, and those young men will almost always leave them for a younger girl.

Don’t believe me? Well, of course there are exceptions (there are no rules to life and people do break the mold) but after talking to a few older women who are in their 30’s+ I know my little life theory is correct. I was shown a picture of 10 women, 8 of those women were divorced, some from one marriage only, some from 2. Most of them were dating younger men or had just been cheated on by a younger man.

When you are in your 20’s and you feel like you need to get married because everyone else is doing it, hold off. Being a 20-something year old is a whole new start of your life. You are figuring yourself out, you are figuring out your career, your finances, your friends… your whole life. Teenager years were just this small foundation of your personality, 20-something years are the foundation of your life. You are going to be selfish, and you should be, especially if you want a great life and you can’t be selfish in a relationship.

If you get married in your 20-somethings it will be amazing, being married is exciting, but now you are trying to figure out what you want with someone else and you can not be selfish. You will have to make sacrifices, you will not get to do all those things you planned when you were 16 years old, and some of your dreams will not be accomplished. Later in life you might find yourself sitting around regretting things or at least wondering how your life would have been if you had done things differently.

Personally, out of 5 couples that I know that got married in their 20’s, 2 are already divorced and one is filing paperwork and they haven’t even reached 30 yet. The other two couples, I think, are going to break my theory and stay together (and I hope they do), but my point really isn’t about divorce statistics.

My point is, you are not alone in being alone and in the end your life might turn out a little bit better then all of your friends who are getting married in their 20-somethings. Be selfish and go after that job position that will take up 90% of life but will have an amazing pay out in 2 years, travel the whole world and only come back home when you need to re-charge, blow a whole play check on that designer bag you’ve been eying,  go back to school and meet new people, find a new hobby, discover yourself,  in fact create yourself. Do whatever you want because when you are 20-something it is YOUR time, and it should be.

Don’t worry about everyone else getting engaged, married and so forth, it will happen to you eventually and when it does you will be more than ready, mature, and be able to keep your relationship.