"Friends will come and go, but family is forever. You will be lucky if you have one or two true friends in life" is something my dad told my daily. I have carried this with me my whole life and have never been distraught when friendships end, it’s life and I understand.
However, as an adult it’s becomes harder to maintain friendships because of distance, life priorities, different values, misunderstandings, and simply growing apart. On top of that more ‘friends’ tend to be fake, only using you for their benefit, not caring how you really are, or simply just there for the party and not listening to what you have to say. I’m not perfect and sometimes I am a crappy friend, but usually it’s because I don’t want to really be friends with that person anymore and eventually it gets to the point where I just come out and say exactly that.
However I am lucky that there are a select few in my life who are my true friends, we have zero benefit in being friends other than pure enjoyment of hanging out. I will always make time for them, they will always make time for me, and even if we argue we are understanding of the others view point. These friends are the ones who have told me straight up what they feel about me, my decisions, my other friends, my boyfriend, etc; and vice versa. They have always been there for me, I have been there for them, and I know when we are old ladies nothing will change. Why? Simply, we accept one another for everything that we are and are not.
Those are my true friends.